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I suppose the obvious question is why not have 2 accounts on Facebook?
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David
twitter for me is more about the content.
Thank you for sharing this.
Quality unique content.
Keep it up man!!
Peace,
Brad
Thanks for this.
I am relatively new to social media. I have decided to limit my FB account as well, right from the get go. I cannot keep track of everyone as it is, and to add people I do not know personally seems overwhelming.
Awhile back I read THE TIPPING POINT by Malcolm Gladwell. He had a small bit in there about group size and how we are socially constructed to be in small "tribes". Here's a summary I found from another website (http://radio.weblogs.com/0107127/stories/2003/0...)
"The figure of 150 seems to represent the maximum number of individuals with whom we can have a genuinely social relationship, the kind of relationship that goes with knowing who they are and how they relate to us. Putting it another way, it's the number of people you would not feel embarrassed about joining uninvited for a drink if you happened to bump into them in a bar." ?Robin Dunbar,
1. Even relatively small increases in the size of a group [beyond 150] creates a significant additional social and intellectual burden.
2. The rule of 150 suggests that the size of a group is another one of those subtle contextual factors that can make a big difference.
3. Peer pressure is much more powerful than a concept of a boss
4. Transactive memory: we store information with other people. Since mental energy is limited, we concentrate on what we do best.
5. Groups of 150 are an organized mechanism that makes it far easier for new ideas and information moving around the organization to tip; to go from one person or one part of the group to the entire group all at once.
Of course, the last few points refer to a work setting. But I think socially we just cannot handle more information. It truly does become a burden.
Congrats on your new baby! I will continue to enjoy following your updates on Twitter (the rule of 150 seems to apply there as well. Even though I follow more than 150 there really are many less "active" posters).
Thanks for posting as a video, too. Looking forward to your tweets.
You do have a good point, were they adding you because of who you are or because of your online status?
Melissa
No one should be offended or upset if they get taken off as a friend. It's life. Everyone does it and everyone has it happen to them, for various reasons. I had a friend that I had been friends with for 10 years on my Facebook. Around August or September of last year he just started going on and on and on about the election and the parties and was just an absolute annoyance to the point that I had to delete him from my friends. It's not the ones that you delete and ask why that you have to worry about it's the ones you delete and they keep trying to add you back thinking you accidentally deleted them. It's hard to accidentally delete someone when Facebook asks you if you are sure you want to delete them.
In the end it's your profile not other peoples and you should be able to have who you want on it as friends and not have to explain why you deleted someone.
Have you explored the use of the new "List" function? It should allow you to break out your 'true' friends from other groups and limit permissions on FB as you need it. However, I'm not sure if the recommended friends section is then affected. :/ That might be one area that FB needs to scrutinize.
Facebook is more personal. I only friend people I have actually met/spoke with before.Even if I "met" you at a party, I won't friend you if I really can't remember. If you want thousands of friends or followers then do that on Twitter or Myspace. Facebook shouldn't be used so much for following/stalking but connecting with people in your life around the world.
No one should really be offended if they are deleted. It's your profile and you should be able to do what you want with that. With such large networks, you can't take it personally. I think the whole reason behind is to stay connected personal.
I totally agree with your reasons for deleting people. It's not only you and your information that you are more or else protecting but all of your friends because you have just let someone new into your network.
We can't have every web service be about friends and followers. We still need our own personal corners of the internet.
However, I play a game on Facebook that grants extra points for having friends participate, so I've added a lot of non-"real-life" friends recently. With the recent addition of friends lists, I have been able to lock them down to a friends list with access to only the info I feel comfortable sharing with the world.
To the same degree though, I have a personal Twitter account, and I'm fearful of adding the whole mass social media connections to it. What are your thoughts on having two Twitter accounts, one personal and one business?
What I find odd is people treating facebook and sending me inviations to be "friends" without any kind of personal message attached to it that say" hi, i'm interested in "friending" you because I too, have an interest in x,y,z and feel you'd be a good connection.In some cases, I've accept, reached out to them to see if there's a reason to communicate and gotten nothhing in return. Delete.
I kind of treat Plaxo like the myspace of networking. I don't care if a monkey asks me to be a friend on that service, i just say yes. On facebook, I'm more selective but I could be even more.
Your family comes first, and quite frankly, if someone cannot take the time to get to know you and build that relationship, tough cookies!
BTW: Congrats on that new baby!!! Hope mommy and baby are well.
Good post, I agree.
It's fun to socialize with friends and family on Facebook. If someone is just now going to get an account there, it is possible to get it under a nome de plume, and then reveal one's identity to friends and family on the site. I think if the profile/sign-up name is not the user's real name, it is a great privacy enhancement. The "red flag" is the sign-up/profile name, not the interactions with people you trust on the site.